You can try realizing that truth can stand hard questions; if your “faith” and institutional church cannot, perhaps you had better rethink that idea that either has the total monopoly on “truth” you claim it does. So, marrying a wife that is from a different religion or of no religion will lead to an unhappy life. But I think having good discussions about it in advance can solve those issues. I have, and it remains a great read. My girlfriend is Catholic and I’m Jewish. She knows I love and respect her, even if I don’t always love and respect the influence of the Christian right. Required fields are marked *, Evan, I am a non-Jewish girl dating a Jewish guy. In some cases, I could see a Christian not being strong in their religious beliefs, getting married, and maybe even agreeing to the Jewish Grnadparent’s wishes for the children to be brought up Jewish. Unless you planned on eleven kids, consider yourself lucky that he left. Of course you aren’t one of those, right? I do not mean to be funny, but seriously, wouldnt you rather know this now that move forward and wind up resenting him and perhaps even divorcing him????? Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. We should enjoy our family and friends not pick them apart and leave them because they are not current on the spiritual journey. During our course of relationship, he led me to believe that we were meant to be together and it’s so easy for him to see us married. As it is, your institutionalized version of “faith” has taken the Bible, one of the great all-time gifts to human literature,, and rather than appreciate all the history, all the wisdom, all the historical law, all the poetry, and even the simple message of love, tolerance and understanding, you have instead trivialized it into   a rulebook, according to your own brand’s interpretation (often badly flawed, intellectually and historically) of what those rules mean). That is why I wanted the same for my beloved. Faith is a very individual thing, and some people can practice theirs independent of a partner and others want share it with a partner with the same vision and values. Some people (including some industrious person who sent me an anonymous copy of Why Marry Jewish, and another who compared me to Hitler) get really bent out of shape about this — as if I was saying that religion doesn’t matter. I’m not perfect by a long shot…none of us are. I really believe your message is there. We have been together for 2 years. But what this guy might be saying is that he’d rather live a more modest life and be able to do some donating to charity than he thinks you would want to. I had hard time trying to express my point but JaguarRose did express it accurately. Best wishes & God bless you! . Everything can be interpreted in different ways. I love your approach. Try to learn something about your partner's faith or lack of. Just don’t be surprised when the more rules you have for your partner, the harder it is to find a partner. Well, the Old Testament are more of stories but REAL! This website uses cookies to improve your experience. Their faith is generic and they are reluctant to follow their faith with real commitment, which is why is easier for them to have that type of relationship. And oh well, coz we have different beliefs, and for him I am religious at times, we rather not discuss it coz i know it’ll just lead to disagreement. I think it's important to understand other religions and respect other peoples beliefs but I'd never change my religion for someone and there's no one out there that would make me want to change my religion. Thanks for everyone’s feedback and thanks, Evan, for your’s too. (The truth being I WANT to work as of now so there is no argument.) Thank you. in his eyes though, i think we are, which i think is just weird. The difference between us, Julia, is that people come and ask me for advice because something isn’t working in their life. This relationship isn't a collaboration between two equal partners. Quiet as its kept, church is fun and I am not about being with someone who is so closed that they wouldn’t even consider sharing something with me that is enjoyable. Sorry, but according to Catholic laws, if he slept with her he should have married her. As a matter of fact, as a believer, I should be humble, teachable, and have a heart toward others. Feel free to opt-out in the cookie settings if you wish. I wonder if he is putting these demands on you all of a sudden as a way of driving you off. That is the whole point of having a relationship with Jesus. Without a foundation or clarity explains why divorce runs rampant. So I get the door shut on me and left with a broken heart. He is amazing and does not fight against my beliefs, but it still effects my faith. Who doesn't need more healing. You can receive or reject. I thank God for my relationship with Him. Is that your absolute truth, that we are wrong? What To Do If You Want To Find Love. Are you serious? Don't get me wrong, I think religion is very important for our future kids' but I also told him that we could incorporate both religions. I wish he would change his mind or come back. My first boyfriend was from Lebanon and his parents didn't approve of me dating him. I am African American and my gifts are singing which I love to do and dancing and my pastor has asked me to start a Liturgical dance ministry in my church. Grow up and accept that. Forget about the whole realm of spirituality, because no one is on the same path really, any more than they’re on the same path of personal growth. He told me that he wanted me to change and become a christian, but I told him no I wasn't going to change because he has to accept me the way I am and that means to except everything and that I wasn't going to change for any man no matter how much I love him. God uses imperfect people to do His perfect Will. He knows I'm an Atheist. When you have shifted and you mean business, then you can tell him that he needs a major attitude adjustment. I lived it with her, and her story has stayed in my mind. Relious people call me ” Sister” , “dear” but   only   is a facade …and ending when not be suitable for their religion. I sort of agree with Evan on this but not entirely. We were friends for 3 1/2 years before we decided to try a romantic relationship. I guess I just can’t comprehend how someone can choose religion over another person especially when he says we were made for each other. Ghandi once observed, “I like your Christ. Wow Stephanie I couldn’t have put it better myself. That does not make him inferior to someone who follows blindly. He is also asking you to place your own education and self-development behind his own. It has worked for us for almost 10 years. tonight me and my guy friend just broke up after 10 months of dating because he realized that he was becoming more connected to his faith, and he realized that he wants his spouse to be the same as well. My ex boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago over religion. . These people don’t follow Christ, as you see, there is hardly any love in them They just want to feel superior . Hi,I just wanted to say that I'm a big fan, you're fabulous. because it can hinder your relationship to God. The Bible teaches Christians that we are not to be unevenly yoked with unbelievers. To bring this back to you, Sandra… People have their self-imposed deal-breakers and they always will. Had he really taken this thing so seriously, he would have done that, instead of using her. My boyfriend and I have just become much more serious recently. Your email address will not be published. I learned a lot in this relationship and I know what not to do next go around. How dare you lump everyone who doesn’t think and behave exactly like you into one category of “fake Christians” and declare that they have no “real” relationship with Christ? If there were feedback forms on every date, it would be useful, but we’re never gonna really know why others do what they do. However, he thinks he's perfect and there's nothing wrong about him whatsoever. Either he discovered something about himself or he genuinely changed. I was heavily agnostic all the way into my lower thirties. I am 22 and he is 27.…, Evan, I am Indian girl and my boyfriend is an older black man. Coz he really acted according to his faith. Although she was a little confused about what that meant I thought we had an understanding and that she put that understanding at the same level I did. Comment number 14 .. lol. And if that person loves me, he should love my God, too.” ~Bb. You think leading people on when you don’t want anything serious with them is a Christian thing? By the by, wasn’t it you, just a post or two down from here, who told all us heathens, infidels, non-believers, and heretics to “GET RIGHT OR GET LEFT !” How noble of you! the best is to choose the only man whose love is Eternal, un changing ,and unconditional none other than The Lord Jesus Christ . Could just be the skeptic in me. Amen! [gravityform id="10" title="false" description="false"],
I think so too! We have been together for 6 months.